Let’s face it. The idea of dating as a single mother is not everyone’s idea of a good time. There is so much more at stake given you have littles to consider, and you’ve most likely learned a lot about what you want and don’t want in your next relationship. After meeting the love of her life, Jaime Bernstein decided she wanted to help other singles in the city meet their match and turned to matchmaking as a full-time career. Now, a senior VIP matchmaker at Three Day Rule, her honest and sincere approach to matchmaking makes her both a great matchmaker and a trusted confidant. Jaime has pulled together some tips for getting the most out of the dating scene. Read on…
- Recognize that a lot has changed since you were last single, but don’t be scared! Chances are you have limited experience with online dating on sites like Match or eHarmony, or dating apps like Tinder. Do your research to figure out which dating site is the best fit for you. Match and eHarmony are generally for people looking for more committed relationships, while apps like Tinder attract a younger, more casual audience.
- Say “yes” to new opportunities and engage in activities that make you happy. You never know who you will meet at the running club or while wine tasting. You will also gain self-confidence by trying new hobbies.
- Don’t feel like you’re being selfish. Study after study shows how important it is for moms to make their own happiness a priority. Ending a relationship with kids in the picture can be difficult and feel overwhelming. Don’t feel guilty for making time for yourself and your dating life. You can STILL be a great mom while getting out there to meet new people.
- Treat Yo’ Self. If it’s been awhile since you have been back in the dating game, it could be helpful to get a boost of confidence. Pamper yourself with little pick-me-ups like getting a facial or a blow-out at the salon before a first date, or signing up for that yoga class you’ve been dying to take. Most makeup counters and beauty stores like Sephora offer free makeup tutorials. Now is the right time to experiment with that new lipstick or eyeshadow you have been eyeing!
- Date for Fun. Not every date needs to be marriage material. You’ve just gotten out of a serious, committed relationship, so don’t be afraid to change things up. Maybe it’s the cute trainer at the gym or someone you meet at a happy hour or networking event – if you think you’ll have fun, go for it!
- Don’t Look too far into the Future. This has a lot to do with dating for fun. If you are constantly in the mindset of wondering what your kids will think of this man and vice versa, take a deep breath. Ultimately, of course your next serious partner should have a great relationship with your kids. But now is your time to have fun and enjoy yourself, so date for now and not the future.
Happy dating mamas!