Quite honestly, the juggling act is the hardest part of it all. It feels like every minute of every day is filled with something! Whether it’s mom stuff or work stuff, there’s always something that needs to be done. I do have a nanny that helps me 3 times a week, so I’m fortunate to have somewhat of a balance of being at home with Nate but also having time to focus on my blog. A good day for me is being able to spend the day with Nate, but also manage to get some work or “me” stuff done while he’s napping or down for the night. Then there are those moments where I take on too much and there are not enough hours in the day to get everything done. Those are the nights I end up staying up until 1AM, which ends up taking such a toll on my body. I’ve learned to turn down more and only commit to projects that truly make sense for me, but the balance still gets the best of me.
I’ve been lucky enough to have a loyal following that has been part of my life since I started my blog, almost 7 years ago. So many of my readers have been going through similar life changes so they’re able to relate, which in turn has really allowed me to connect. With that being said, I also work hard at trying to balance the content I put out. I recognize that many people started following me before I had a child and I don’t want to isolate those readers that don’t care about motherhood, because let’s face it, not everyone does!
Don’t be so hard on yourselves. I think “mom guilt” happens to the best of us, but I’ve quickly realized we’re all doing the best that we can.
Hands down, time management! It is so necessary to develop good time management skills when your time is split in a million different directions. It’s still something I’m trying to get a good handle on, but I think it just comes with the territory.
Don’t be so hard on yourselves. I think “mom guilt” happens to the best of us, but I’ve quickly realized, we’re all doing the best that we can. Whether you’re going back to work because it’s financially necessary, mentally necessary, or just because it’s a job you truly enjoy – give yourself a little break. Also, if you’re considering a cleaning person – get one!!!! Worth every single penny.
Ha! Those moments happen on a weekly basis. I’m fortunate enough to have an amazing, hands-on husband, so sometimes all I need is to step out of the house and run to the gym, or I’ll just get a manicure. There are days when it’s as easy as just stepping outside to take a breather and on other days, I will text message my fellow mom-friends and vent. That also leads me to one of my number one rules: have a mom crew! It is so necessary!
Oh man, I wish I knew the exact formula, but I really think it was a combination of many things. For starters, I started my blog way before Instagram, so I was lucky enough to have a following that carried over. After that, I think it’s so important to have strong photography, a strong point of view and to really connect with your followers.
It takes a lot of work, but without my followers, I wouldn’t be where I am and I think it’s important to recognize that. I usually carve out 30 minutes every day, usually while he’s napping or down for the night, and respond to DMs, comments and emails. Some days are better than others and there are instances where I don’t respond until a week later. It’s not ideal, but it happens! Especially since on the days that I’m with Nate, I try to be as present as possible and I refrain from being too active on social media. And I do have an assistant who helps me with a lot of backend stuff, but anything relating to reader interaction comes solely from me. Otherwise, it wouldn’t feel authentic!
Talking about it helped tremendously! I think that is key. Whether it’s with a therapist or in a mom group, it helps to know that you’re not alone and it is in fact, very common.
This is actually a post that I’m currently working on! It’s a topic that needs to be discussed a lot more than it is because Postpartum is so much more common than I ever realized. Personally, I didn’t have PPD right after I had Nate but when I weaned from breastfeeding. It was months into motherhood, so the fact that it wasn’t right after I had the baby hit me like a ton of bricks. I didn’t know what was happening and why I was feeling so incredibly sad, but after doing a ton of research, I realized that PPD from weaning is so much more common than people talk about. After a few rough months, my hormones finally felt like they leveled out and I started feeling like my old self again. Talking about it helped tremendously! I think that is key. Whether it’s with a therapist or in a mom group, it helps to know that you’re not alone and it is in fact, very common.
That I would be completely okay with saying no to so many things. I’ve had to turn down many incredible work trips, projects, events, fun nights with friends and I’ve been totally okay with it. I also think that “the right time to be a mom” means something different for everyone, but for me, having a child in my 30’s was the best thing I could have done. I feel like I lived an incredible pre-baby life and I was ready for that next chapter! Yes, it means that I’m less available, something that is sometimes hard to grasp, but overall, I’ve been fine with it.
Yes and no! I still love to dress up, as a matter of fact. I still NEED those days, but I’ve also never worn so many flats in my life! I actually love the challenge of coming up with outfits that are comfy, but also stylish to “mom” around in. My easy go-to is: Levi’s jeans or cutoffs, espadrilles or my trusty Gucci slides, a simple white v-neck tee and some necklaces to jazz up the look. If it’s chilly, I’ll throw on a leather jacket on top. I’ve also never been so focused on skincare as I am now. I’d rather invest my time in making my skin look good so on the days where I don’t have time to put much makeup on, I still feel great.
I used to work from an office that I shared with a friend, but now I work from home and from a local coffee shop. Sometimes I need to get out of my house so I’m not distracted by the hundreds of things that I need to do. My productivity can vary depending on what I’m working on. If I need to focus, I’m better off by myself, but if I need to brainstorm and get inspired, I love being in a group setting.
During my first months of motherhood, I joined my local neighborhood Facebook group and have been so lucky to have met some incredible women from it. Having a support system, especially those going through the same things as you, was key in surviving that first year. Now, we all have boys the same age and it’s so nice to be able to get together, both with them and without, and to just hang out!
Don't judge. Everyone has their own way of parenting and that's perfectly fine. I've met mothers who have their baby on a strictly vegan diet, and mothers who feed their baby everything under the sun. Whatever works for you! As long as the child is loved, to each her own!
Don't neglect your partner! It's easy to get caught up in balancing work and motherhood, but I make sure to make my relationship a priority as much as anything else.
Don't be afraid to travel with your child. When I was planning our first trip, I was so anxious, but after we came back, I realized it was much easier than I had expected. As much work as it entailed (because let's be honest, it's a "trip", not a vacation), the memories made it so worth it.